The attention whore, who is as toxic as they come, I think everyone knows this type of person at some point in their lives.  If you are lucky, this person will be a short lived fixture in your world.  However, how about if this type of person is someone you are closely related to that you can’t easily dismiss from your life?

I admit I have someone in my life and have had in my life for more than a few years that fits this category perfectly.  I try my best to rise above their antics, but sometimes I am left so much more frustrated then when I started out and get sucked right into their vapid world.

I have for sometime tried very hard not to bring up this person or even this topic on my blog page, because I truly don’t want to feed into them. I have felt this is exactly what this person wants more attention and writing about them would serve that purpose quite nicely.

But I feel like I need to share a bit, because I have stayed silent so long.  This person is related to my husband.  So, it is not blood related to me and an in-law, but nevertheless the stuff that has been done by them to themselves and those around us (my husband and I) has been nothing short of insanity at its very best.

I met my husband 10 years ago this July and when we met we had both turned 26 years old and were so done with the immaturity and head games that many do play when they are younger.  it was so refreshing that I had met someone who was real.

Then, I met his family and they were straight up lovely people, but of course there always has to be one person that has to be trouble.  I think many people can agree that when it comes to in-laws watch out for you never know who will stab you in the back.  If you are one of those lucky people, who have no experience with this.  My hat is off to you and either you are just that lucky or you are lying here or even to yourself.

But nevertheless, we dated and even got engaged before this person made their intentions fully known.  I remember being told by my then new fiancé to watch my back and don’t think that this person was my friend.  I mean you try to befriend people if they are related to someone you are going to marry and at least give them the benefit of the doubt, right?  Wrong and he was never more right then when he uttered those words to me.

Shortly after the dust settled from our engagement, we began to pick those for our bridal party.  This person needed to be right in the middle telling us that if we picked them to be a part of our wedding party, we should also pick the person they were dating, because that was what would make them comfortable and happy (yes our wedding, but they were to be the center of attention don’t you know!).  First thing that sent red flags up for me and even made me question who does this and makes such demands.  It was our wedding not theirs, but in the end we relented so as not to create waves (because I was marrying into his family and truly didn’t want to start off on the wrong foot).

This was May and by December of that year, this person got engaged.  We were told in no uncertain terms that only family would be included in their bridal party.  You guessed it, I wasn’t technically family yet, because we were still engaged.  So they both would be in ours and only Kevin would be in theirs.  When we balked at that and even asked if possible to have them wait to get married after our big day (yes we were still very much planning out big day through all this), this person had the gaul to say, “I don’t care about your wedding, in fact if I want to get married one day before you I will!”

That did it for me and I had to put my foot down and kick both of those two damn leeches out (I had had enough and no more nice guy for me) and thankfully Kevin was in agreement and even told them he was declining their invitation as a groomsman, as well.  In the end, they got married six months before us, because god forbid this person lose out on being the center of attention ever and even had a meltdown 3 weeks before their own wedding begging Kevin to reconsider as a groomsman.  Still wanting to keep the original agreement and delusional is this person’s middle name.  

Thankfully, no dice and they got married without Kevin as a groomsman and we got married six months later with neither of them standing up for us. And a decision, I am still happy that I did make after all this time, because just when I think this person has grown they truly haven’t.

And yes I could go on, because remember we will be married seven years now and so much more water has gone under that proverbial bridge with children also being added to this lovely mis.  I will say this, this person still hasn’t grown up and is still as childish as they day, I unfortunately met them when they were only 21 years old, now adding child number three to their family, which they neither have the money nor the resources for, but remember as so many say you don’t need a license to have children.  

I have truly kept my mouth shut for not wanting to sound petty or rude on my own blog (remember this person is related to me still through marriage), but this person sure knows how to make my blood boil and to be honest this post was just such a long time coming (10 years worth).